Wednesday, March 13, 2013
Is cheating a new science or art of life?
Writes Enock wa Shishenge
Writes Enock wa Shishenge
*Disclaimer:- this article’s aim is not to plant distrust, mistrust and disloyalty between partners, but to scrutinize lifestyles of men and women in relationships. The content is bit heavier. You consume it at your own risk.
How many people never cheated? If you have never cheated stop reading this. Be warned: - never say never. Most of you will be enlightened after reading this article because it will uncover the untold truths as if I am talking about you and your partners. But “a ti relax tingwenya” - it’s a reality of life. I am aware that these opinions might be regarded as the paralysis of analysis by ‘those’ - but what I like is that the light shall be shared.
There is a new saying that goes like: “Every woman has a potential of cheating but almost every man is a cheater”. It’s easy for a man to be caught when he cheats than it is for a woman. The reason is women are able to forgive – a woman can find you on top of another woman and still forgives you. How simple is that? It happened in the past and it still happens today. Women are creations of special type. If a man finds out that his partner cheats it becomes the end of her or the relationship. That is the spark of much domestic violence we hear and read about in our main stream media. But if a man finds out he gets out of mind and becomes so mad. These are pure facts. Men close all the doors of their ears once they find a woman in such a situation.
Cheating means to behave dishonestly or have sex with someone who is not your partner, husband or wife –how many times have you behaved in such a way? To behave dishonestly may also mean not to tell your partner certain things such as that you still keep contact with your ex without their knowledge; kissing someone at a party; admiring his/her friend; giving an opposite stranger your cell phone numbers etc. Today there are so many new arts of cheating which have plundered so many relationships into the deep abyss. The revolution of technology and social media in particular exacerbated cheating in relationships.
If there is a person who can attest to the fact that every woman has potential to cheat is me with the experience I have with ekasi lifestyle – and if there is another person who can further attest that almost every man cheats is still me with the contact I have kept with friends and foes ekasi. People cheat for different reasons: - they cheat because they are not happy in their relationships – though there is no such a thing as 100% happiness in relationships; some cheat for the love of money; others cheat with people in positions of power; and some are just whores or cassonovers. Are you able to identify the reason that might lead your partner to cheat? If not uzo limala!
Social media such as WHAT’S UP, FACEBOOK, MIXIT, etc. are, at times, the root cause of cheating. What feeling do you have when your partner is always on WHAT’S UP? When you ask her/him - what are you laughing at? Do you ever expect an honest answer? Never. So don’t even bother to ask. We have heard people saying: ‘I am talking to Portia while it’s John’. ‘I am talking to Jack while it’s Rose’.Once you inbox problems on FACEBOOK or text them on WHAT’S UP or any other social media the scavengers will always have a way to pretend empathetic, especially with women who seem to be so vulnerable. I have seen so many women engaging in sexual cheating because they needed a shoulder to cry on and it’s very rare not to find a man who is not available to assist in that regard.
I have seen and heard of so many people cheating at work places as a result of power relations; I have seen worse situations at the churches; I have seen and heard of wives cheating with plumbers, builders, painters, gardeners whilst husbands were away; I have seen and heard of husbands who cheat with maidens, colleagues, neighbours whilst their wives were not there and I know of untrustworthy friends who smile with you while they sleep with your wife or husband ekasi. Is this thing a natural thing– to cheat?
*Read her/his speeches; what s/he says tells you a lot; what s/he does means a lot; read her/his lips – and ask simple questions and listen to answers you will get the truths. No matter how a person can cheat on you never think of taking her/his life - just move on with your life. Killing your partner for cheating should be the thing of the past because everyone is potential cheater. That’s life. I vutominyana bya kona - hi ta ku yini?
Tuesday, March 5, 2013
Indigenous Languages still not taken serious in this post liberation era...
It's very painful to learn that the indigenous languages are not taken serious irrespective of the provision in the constitution that they will be respected and developed. As I speak there are schools that do not have textbooks for learners, especially for indigenous languages in Gauteng. And remember according to CAPS all learners are supposed to have textbooks to facilitate teaching and learning.
Last year in the same province Xitsonga got 1 distinction in grade 12; Tshivenda 2 and Sepedi none in the whole province. This is so because of the lack of support for indigenous languages. Schools give preferences to Maths and Science on the expense of indigenous languages and subjects such as History.
All these happen at the time when our dear minister of basic education is preparing to put expensive systems at schools to police teachers. But at the same time the sizes of the classes and the facilities at schools leave nothing to be desired. We still have schools where learners are 65 in class. I feel for poor teachers. But our honourable minister without proper research is directing the monies which would be directed for a good cause to something very unnecessary. Are we gonna get an education system right under comrade Angie? As long as we don't stop to politicise education we are not gonna get the education of an African child right. Let's wake up South Africans and do our numbers with timing and correctly so.